Today Is my son’s last say of Grade 5.. I cant believe where the time has gone. I still remember being pregnant and holding my little boy in my arms for the first time… i keep telling him he needs to stop growing up and he just laughs at me whilst reminding me that in 2016 he will be a senior of primary school (grade 6).. Nnooo xx
Warning I’m sorry but I might throw a few F bombs in this post as I honestly have just had more than my limitations…
I have been having such a hard time at the moment with Mr. Pre-teen. . It’s like he’s hit the wall of puberty and hormones all at once. I was going ok until this occurred and at the moment I feel like a monster mother who has “that problem child”. He was going really well at school then I don’t know what occurred or what part of his mindset made it ok for him to decide it’s ok to talk back, be rude and have the whole “I’m always right’ attitude.
I’m a very patient person but it’s like he is really trying to push way beyond my limits. I feel like somewhere I have failed as a parent but in all honesty I haven’t. Luckily I have an open relationship with his teacher and she’s comfortable telling me straight (as much as she tries not to sugar coat it, as she is one of those gentle personalities) how his attitude and behavior is at school. I feel like an asshole at the moment regarding my son. He has developed this whole attitude of “I don’t care” towards his academic work and thus his grades are not showing his capacities. He downright won’t do it or he has made this ‘diversion tactic” to prevent himself from completing his work. At home he’s started to talk back and trust me I nipped that situation in the ass real quick. I will not have any of my children think it’s ok to smart mouth, talk back, misbehave etc. I was not raised to think its ok for behaviors like this: I was raised old school with manners. So I have worked my single ass off to make sure that my children have been brought up the same way.
The most frustrating part for me and problem the most hurtful part is the lying. Why not admit that you screwed up instead of making what occurred at school only a half truth. I can’t stand people who lie. Plain and simple. So I made it very clear to my son what my expectations are of him on all levels and also told him that I was utterly disappointed in his poor choices. It really has done such a shitty fucking number on me as I received an email from his teacher on Monday stating how great his attitude and behavior has changed… then Tuesday the bomb drops that she was notified that Friday was such a mess (she was absent so she had to get all the information from the other teachers who replaced her). Argh for fucks sake. I ended up writing this post as this morning before school I received a phone call (at my request on a situation that occurred on Friday *apparently the ‘your mama jokes are the in thing at school and the kids use the most foul descriptive language you would only expect to hear at a construction site-not from primary school).. So the phone call I requested was about that and then she apologized to say that Friday was a really shitty day for my son behavior wise. I feel like I am banging my head against a fucking brick wall with my son seriously. This morning before school I went off like a bomb and in no uncertain terms told him and made it very clear how utterly disappointed I am at him. After such a shocking reality check from me (words only but spoken very calmly) he apparently snapped back into who he really is and had a great day. WHAT?? Why does it have to be like this?? Seriously he knows right from wrong yet at school he has a major brain explosion and thinks it’s ok to play up.?!
Let me start by saying.. my son is in grade 5 and to help him with his homework I often have to go and google what the teacher has sent home…
Any other mum’s out their who have this issue?? I have a moment when I’m looking at his homework and thinking “oh my god what the hell is this?! What does this mean? What does the teacher want?” Then thank the angels for GOOGLE. After a quick search and speed reading, it brings back all the things I did learn in school but yet have had no use for it in the real world. Topic for today is: polygons people lets talk polygon shapes..
There are the basic shapes we know but then it gets really complicated like:
- Quadrilaterals: The word itself broken down is “quad” meaning four and “lateral” meaning side. The shape also has to be a 2D shape to qualify.
- Rhombus: The rhombus is better known to most kids as the diamond. Get the kids to colour the rhombus and find the triangles amongst it. With four sides and four 90 degree angles, the rhombus sides are all perpendicular.
- Heptagon: The heptagon is recognised by its seven sides and seven angles. The heptagon must remain a 2D shape and all sides must be closed for it to qualify as a heptagon.
- Pentagons: are easily recognised by their five sides and five angles. A pentagon also has tree triangles inside if you join all the diagonals.
- Nonagons: For a shape to qualify as a nonagon, it must have nine sides and nine angles. All of these need to be closed lines and it also must be a 2D shape. There are regular and irregular nonagons.
- Decagons: The decagon is recognised by its 10 sides and 10 angles. There are 35 diagonals in a 2D polygon.
So as you can see from the examples above, why I went frog eyed in shock thinking “what the hell” and “where have I used these in real life?” I’m not sure about you but I find it easier to relate things to whatever I need to remember. Such as: rhombus= diamond, hexagon = house etc. I have found that my son retains the information better and recalls it easier when we relate to everyday items.
Trying to figure out why my son has started this “I’m not smart enough thought” (as previously blogged about here ) and asked him what happens in class when he doesn’t understand what the teacher is talking about. He has said he asks for help but the teacher doesn’t really tell us anything to remember them by. Bingo mummy has found the solution. So I will let the teacher know that my son finds it easier to associate things to help him learn.. will keep you posted about the progress. Wish me luck
As a parent you do your upmost to fill your child/children with:
self-confidence (not to the point of being rude or cocky)
self love, self worth, manners etc everything that they need to have in being able to handle whatever lofe throws at them.
I have had the biggest struggle this year with mr preteen and school. Academicly he is a very bright student yet he fails himself by ‘giving up’ and not bothering to try or apply himself when it suits him. I have an open communication with his teacher of which I’m grateful for as I know it must be hard telling parents about the concerns for the child. I’m not a parent who’s hackles go up and put my rose coloured glasses on, whilst having the mindset my child is perfect. No one is perfect and whats the point of putting your child in bubble wrap?? Everyone makes mistakes and its a part of life that you learn from them and move on.
So as the old saying goes “you can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink” is 100% accurate. I have done everything possible so far to help my son from taking him to many specialists, therapist’s, tutors etc yet everyone says that he’s bright as just lacks self confidence. I also do extra work with him everyday on all leves such as: academic, emotional, mental, self love and belief etc but still it all comes down to him wanting to help himself.
Today I’m grateful for :
🌻 A warm bubble bath with my daughter after being power spewed on by my baby girl.
🐶 Purchasing a much needed new computer desk dirt cheap. I love bargains!
🐙 The warm sun warming up and recharging my exhausted body(for a small bit).
🐝 My dad asking me for help.
🌞 My son who so wise beyond his years.
I thought that I would put up on here why I dont put up personal photos of myself or my kids… I’ve been through way too much hence why I domestic violence orders and sole custody of my children. So needless to say I’m just putting up the reason if your wondering..
Today I am grateful for:
🌈My G.P who took out my implanon implant.
📷Actually being able to take a few photos of my daughter doing her new ‘stink face’..Priceless
📚 Being able to read a few long chapters in my book undisturbed while waiting for my doctor..
😆Seeing my sons huge smile and my daughter laughing/giggling as they played on the swing together.
🍀Taking my daughter for a huge walk today… half way through she ended up falling asleep peacefully.
I will have alot to say, so keep on the look out for my blog purge…
Topics include :
– frustrated mummy
Andd so much more